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Thursday, July 30, 2009

[翔2y7m] NO.2校外旅行

明天(7月31日)拿了一天假,为了陪翔去幼儿园所主办第二次的校外旅行. 幼儿园规定3岁班的学生只有在家长陪同下才可以参加此活动.他们将参观Yakult厂还有芙蓉烧包.孩子们还有机会亲手做烧包 (过后会给我们吧,不然还有谁敢吃!!?)

这次又将会是我孤身作战.我记得翔爹他在无法参与上次的动物园之游说过,下次一定不缺席.翔应该不记得了,我倒是很失望,其中最重要的是他的不守诺言.虽然我明白翔爹都为了有个更好的家庭环境而努力的赚钱.可是爸爸也应该参与孩子们的成长过程啊.虽然有妈妈陪同,可是如果也有爸爸在的感觉肯定不同.

我小时候,最最最不满我父母的是他们的不守诺言,他们的约法三章90%是不可靠的.其次就是他们过于保护我,连中学的校外旅行考察我也无法去.当同学们回来时,我更本无法和她们交谈,只因为我没参与,考察的后感报告我也无法做.(还好是团体报告,也还好我有一班好朋友们,肯接受我这个什么都不懂的团员)

无数次我哭着对他们喊:”你们骗我~~~”/”我要去~~~”,更多的时候,我躲在房间里哭着想离家出走(胆小怕事的我当然只是想想而已).这也是可能为什么我有一段非常叛逆的时期,对父母的不礼貌,吃饭后就躲房间不肯出来,还有假期的晚上不到3点是不回家滴.

我曾经有个员工,她在大学的成绩是顶呱呱,什么奖章都有,所以我们对她的期望也很高.她第一个星期来上班就吓了我们一跳.她爸特地请了一星期的假,老远从家乡来到这里.只为了每天上下班时,坐在她身旁指示她驾车,可是当时她已有执照几年了.

我们厂里的生产部向来是和我们品质部的”死对头”.因为她一个小小的错误, 生产部趁机投诉大老板.结果她就坐在那儿懊悔足足哭了3天!还有一次,她乘朋友车来,因为当天她感觉到信心全失,不敢驾车来上班(我们听了都目瞪口呆,不懂说什么好).每个星期六&日,她肯定回家乡,躲回爸妈的怀抱.后来她没做多久,承受不了压力,回家乡另谋高就.我们每个都觉得很不可思议,可是也证实了成绩好,并不代表以后你可以闯一番大事业.

看到别人的经历及自己小时的不满,我都时时刻刻都提醒自己, 不可重蹈覆辙!


P/S: 不懂为何写那么多,本来只想写个郊游就算了,越扯越远.
P/S2: 我要改用中文了,练习下,以应对将来的函授课程.

Saturday, July 25, 2009

Back to study again!

My last working day is 21 August 2009. The same day when I walked out of office, I was feeling very sad, imagining my last working day here after 9 years 4 months of services. I do not know whether I could hold back my tears during my last day, and I will surely missed my colleagues there.

Anyway, one of my colleague is very kind to share with me. His wife too took the same decision as mine few years back, and she had taken up some distance-study-courses offered by Taiwan Chung Hwa Correspondence School.

I have choosen 4 courses in total. Since the school is from Taiwan, thus all the courses are commerse in Chinese Language and following are the outline of the courses (Please forgive me that I did not do the translation, I’m too lazy).

1. Young children development & counselling幼兒發展與輔導
課程簡介  本課程主要內容包括幼兒發展的基本概念並提出理論背景資料以及適當的解決策略,以為教師或父母在實際生活中輔導幼兒的參考,並促進幼兒健全的發展。   本課程共十講:  第一講 幼兒發展基本概念  第二講 幼兒認知能力發展與輔導  第三講 幼兒感覺和身體動作發展與輔導  第四講 幼兒氣質與輔導  第五講 幼兒語言發展與輔導  第六講 幼兒社會行為發展與輔導  第七講 幼兒的依戀行為  第八講 說謊、偷竊  第九講 離婚、攻擊行為  第十講 幼兒害怕、飲食問題

2. Family relations 親職教育與親子互動課程介紹 本課程以家庭發展週期為經、生態系統理論為緯;用生命全程(life-Span)的概 念來探討:從夫婦結婚開始,準備要成為父母的階段直到父母終老死亡整個家庭發 展中父母的任務與挑戰。除此之外還包含實務的應用與建議,尤其著重根據近幾年 對於華人家庭社群所進行的研究成果而啟發的應用。期許在修習本課程過程中能 (1)瞭解如何適當應用兒童發展與家庭動力等許多研究的發現於親職教育的實務推 展、(2)有能力分析不同對象之親職需要、以及(3)增進個人維護健康家庭與親子關 係的能力。

3. Children phsycology 兒童心理學 (I’m most interested in this one)課程簡介  兒童心理學是研究兒童心理發生、發展規律的科學。兒童在發展過程中,環境對其影響很大,需要他人的關懷與幫助,其中以父母、教師的影響最大,如果沒有成人付出關心與協助,兒童恐怕無法發展成為一個健全的成人。在面對與培育兒童時,需要了解兒童的身心發展特質才能勝任,因此對於這個時期心理現象、行為發生、發展任務的探討,即構成了兒童心理學主要研究的對象與議題。  本課程共十講:    第一講 兒童心理學導言  第二講 發展的特徵與影響因素  第三講 身體與動作技能的發展與輔導  第四講 認知能力的發展與輔導  第五講 人格的發展與輔導  第六講 情緒與社會能力的發展與輔導  第七講 語言的發展與輔導  第八講 道德的發展與輔導  第九講 兒童的心理需求與行為目的  第十講 兒童輔導的策略與方法4. Webpage design beginner 網頁設計入門 (I’m a IT dumber, so hopefully this one will be useful for me)教學目標  1.培養設計網頁的基本能力。   2.認識網頁的應用。   3.學習透過網頁分享知識與資訊。   4.學習網頁設計的技術。

Actually there’s so much more courses that I’m interested, but it’s stated that I could only take up to 4 courses maximum per year. I am still wondering whether I have the patience and deligence to complete the 1 year course, but never try never know. Anyway, it’s too early to consider such thing, since I still haven’t know whether the school accepts me, crossing my fingers now.

I’m posting this out for sharing to all other mommies who are interested. Please click the following link to read more about the school and the courses offered.
http://chcsdl.open2u.com.tw/

Wednesday, July 22, 2009

[Xiang 2y7m] Right, or Wrong

Last Saturday, we brought our kids to the playground in the evening to shed off some of their energy (and end up our energy too!!!). Xiang did not want to use the stairs and insisted to “walk” up the tube-type slide. We were trying to stop him at first, making angry faces and telling him he’ll disturb other children who were sliding down and might even hurt himself. Guess how did he react? He stood beside the slide, giving us a pity look and not willing to move a step. No matter how we coaxed him afterwards, that climbing up the ropes seems fun, or the swing is available, or even threatening that we should go back home instead, he just wouldn't move at all and shaked his head, saying “不要!” after our each suggestions.

Finally with a sigh, I took off his shoes, put him inside the slide tube, with a light pat on his backside and told him “没有人下来了… Go Go Go!!!” He reacted like an animal with his chain untied, dashing up the slide. When he reached the top and emerged from the tube, he waved to us and gave us a big bright smile.

Seeing him like this makes me think again. We adults are making and following all the rules. Who says the slide can be only played one way sliding down? Why not going up instead? The kid is creative in his playing while all I think of is “that is not right”. I’ve sent him to music class in order to expose him to creativity, but I’m blocking him in real life, aren’t it contradictory?

I still have a lot to learn about holding back my “no”s and my “don’t”s. The straighter I am with my boy, the more he’ll resist. I guess that if he did hurt himself along the way, it’s just part of growing, and even if so, he’ll learn from it. Who actually went through childhood without a scratch? If I did not give in to his wishes earlier on, I wonder how the story would end? Dragging a crying toddler back home most probably and I’ll sure miss his big bright smile!


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Thursday, July 16, 2009

Supplements - more is better?

Since the recent Xiang's constipation problems and also his never-ended coughing problems, I was giving more and more supplements each day. I do give it a second thought as my dining table started to overflow with various vitamines bottles.

I'm currently giving my kids (Xiang 2y6m & Qi 1y4m) the following:

1. Seven seas cod liver oil

2. Manuka Honey (from Yu Yan Seng)

3. Multivitamine Usanimals

Do you think it is a lot or too little? I was wondering what type of supplements the other moms out here are giving to your kids? Is it the more the better? What is consider as "enough"?

Wednesday, July 15, 2009

[Xiang 2y6m] Traces of blood ...

We were horrified when we saw traces of blood in Xiang's stool last Sunday. We could see clearly the red color blood!

I look up online and some what relief to see that dry and hard motions will sometimes torn the soft tissues and resulted in bleeding. However, when yesterday Xiang's nanny commented that there's traces of blood again, though she said most probably due to heat in his body, we still bring him for a check-up by the paed.

Furthermore, with the recent bad weather conditions, Xiang started coughing again and his voice has become coarse. His ear temperature measured at 37 degC which is showing that he is having some heat.

The paed said the same about the blood, due to tissue torned. He's coughing at the same time his body is heaty, he can't drink cooling drinks like barley but he dislike it anyway. We tried to coax him into wearing diaper again yesterday night so that he'll have a better sleep. But he rejected it totally, I guess he felt more comfortable sleeping without the diaper.

Monday, July 13, 2009

[Qi 1y4m; Xiang 2y6m] Hair trim


Finally, I've brought my gal to the hair saloon to have her first hair trim. Don't be surprise, yup, her FIRST ever experience. Even on Qi's full moon, we just snipped off a few strays of her hair by my sister.

She was basically screaming and crying in the hair saloon, shouting "美美!!!" because she was thinking the lady were cutting her "beutiful" hair away! It was so so so hard to trim her hair, think the lady just manage to snap her scissors a few times and she declared that it's done After this, I will go get a pair of scissors and trim her front hair by myself. I think the result will be the same as she was struggling so hard in the saloon to get a proper cut.

We too brought Xiang there, this is the first time he's willing to put on the apron and little crying. But he heard Qi cried, he too started sobbing but still under control.

Tuesday, July 7, 2009

Something to ponder: Running in the rain

I found the following piece in my old emails. I like it very much. "I've learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision."

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A little girl had been shopping with her Mom in K-Mart. She must have been 6 years old, this beautiful red haired, freckle faced image of innocence.

It was pouring outside. The kind of rain that gushes over the top of rain gutters, so much in a hurry to hit the earth it has no time to flow down the spout. We all stood there under the awning and just inside the door of the K-Mart.

We waited, some patiently, others irritated because nature messed up their hurried day. I am always mesmerized by rainfall. I got lost in the sound and sight of the heavens washing away the dirt and dust of the world. Memories of running, splashing so carefree as a child come pouring in as a welcome reprieve from the worries of my day.

The little voice was so sweet as it broke the hypnotic trance we were all caught in "Mum, let's run through the rain," she said.

"What?" Mum asked.

"Let's run through the rain!" She repeated.

"No, honey. We'll wait until it slows down a bit," Mum replied.

This young child waited about another minute and repeated: "Mum, let's run through the rain,"

"We'll get soaked if we do," Mum said.

"No, we won't, Mum. That's not what you said this morning," the young girl said as she tugged at her Mum's arm.

Mum said, "This morning? ... When did I say we could run through the rain and not get wet?"

"Don't you remember?" Little girl replied. "When you were talking to Daddy about his cancer, you said, 'If God can get us through this, he can get us through anything!"

The entire crowd stopped dead silent. I swear you couldn't hear anything but the rain. We all stood silently. No one came or left in the next few minutes. Mum paused and thought for a moment about what she would say.

Now some would laugh it off and scold her for being silly. Some might even ignore what was said. But this was a moment of affirmation in a young child's' life. A time when innocent trust can be nurtured so that it will bloom into faith.

"Honey, you are absolutely right. Let's run through the rain. If GOD let's us get wet, well maybe we just needed washing," Mum said.

Then off they ran. We all stood watching, smiling and laughing as they darted past the cars and &nb!sp;yes, through the puddles. They held their shopping bags over their heads just in case. They got soaked. But they were followed by a few who screamed and laughed like children all the way to their cars.

And yes, I did. I ran. I got wet. I needed washing.

Circumstances or people can take away your material possessions, they can take away your money, and they can take away your health. But no one can ever take away your precious memories. So, don't forget to make time and take the opportunities to make memories everyday. To everything there is a season and a time to every purpose under heaven.

On a positive note, I've learned that, no matter what happens, how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow. I've learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights.

I've learned that making a "living" is not the same thing as making a "life". I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance. I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catcher's mitt on both hands. You need to be able to throw something back. I've learned that if you pursue happiness, it will elude you. But, if you focus on your family, your friends, the needs of others, your work and doing the very best you can, happiness will find you.

I've learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision.

I've learned that I still have a lot to learn.